Sep 27, 2005

the valkyries

"... he alternated between looking at Chris and watching the road. He loved his wife, but was getting fed up with marriage. He needed some strong passion in his love, in his work, in almost everything he did in his life. And that went against one of nature's most important laws: Every movement needs a pause at times.

He knew that if he continued the way he was, nothing in his life would last very long. He was beginning to understand what J. had meant when he said that people wind up killing what they love most."

what about those who don't know they're killing someone they love? those who repeatedly justify their actions as a normal thing for them even if it's evident they're "murdering" those whom they should hold dear and near to their heart? would that mean that the love they have for them is shallow, false and at times a figment of their imagination? love that they say they have but cannot allow it to manifest itself once they're with the person they claim to love? could such a lie ever exist?


"Love was worth everything, and couldn't be exchanged for anything."

for those of us who love someone deeply, could you ever say that it was worth it? right now, i couldn't say the same. i'm thinking of trying to exchange this so-called love for peace of mind, dignity, a heart that has healed or even the truth that i hope would set me free...



i am currently reading:

paulo coelho's 'the valkyries'

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

hi chillyn. i feel for you, girl. sometimes the men we love tend to hurt us, even if they really don't mean to. then they justify it as part of themselves that you have to accept.

my partner and i underwent counselling one time. the pastor told us that there are some things that we should consider when we argue with our partner. (1) is it something you can compromise with? if it is, then agree that you will compromise your beliefs and standards for him (2) if you can't compromise, then agree to disagree. let him know that you disagree, and live with the fact that you disagree about it.

one other thing. before you leave a relationship, know that there are also two things you can do to approach a situation where you find something objectionable about your partner (1) wait for him to change while you're IN the relationship, or (2) get out of the relationship and wait for him to change. one is not necessarily better than the other, but they fit certain types of situation.

wala lang, just something i want to share. *hugs* hope you feel better soon. ;-)